I have been holding onto the wisdom of the quote from the article in my last blog these past few weeks and have had to opportunity to apply it. For example, both of our daughters (ages 10 and 12) are playing some tennis this summer. My younger daughter is a decent player, but gets frustrated easily and resists opportunities to do it more to get better. I got an email today from her tennis coach that she has the opportunity to play in a match today. It would be her first as she has said no to other opportunities. I thought about giving her to choice again, but decided to sign her up and have her do it. I know she will likely resist it and be mad, but it felt like one of those times where I need to push back and get her over the hump.
I had a different experience with my older daughter recently. She got the tennis bug this summer and is loving it and wanting to play as much as she can. What happened with her is this. She played in a tournament last week and won all three sets. But in the last set, which she won 5-0 the opponent said the score was 4-1. My daughter didn’t argue it because she was afraid to make a fuss about it. If she had told the coach he would have handled it and she would have gone to the finals. Since she didn’t speak up she tied another girl and lost the tie-breaker to go to the finals. This gave us the opportunity to talk about the cost of being to shy to speak up. We also talked about being on your own side and that it is not OK to let someone get away with cheating.
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